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It’s unfortunate but there will be time wasters you will encounter, especially when you’re a newer Domme. I don’t know what it is but I remember very clearly when I was new that a number of “subs” were trying to test my limitations and such. Unfortunately, there will still be time wasters even when you’re an established Domme. Here are a few tips and tricks that helped me spot and deal with time wasters.

Unless a sub was obviously super rude or offensive, it usually isn’t the right answer to block him or ignore him. My best advice is to make yourself clear and/or re-direct the conversation. For example, I might say something like, “This is a good topic for our next paid session” or even a “Pay to discuss this more in depth with Me”. This can work for both online FemDom camming sessions or e-mails. Either way, it’s important to make sure you state your expectations clearly and re-direct conversations when necessary.

For my own sanity, I personally like to set a time limit based on the platform I’m using. For example, if a sub doesn’t tribute or begin a private show within 5 minutes, I can more safely write him off as a time waster and not pay as much, if any, attention to him. In severe cases, I can ban him and move on.

I find that messages, such as e-mail are the most challenging to gauge. For messages, my limit might be something like 2-3 e-mails without a tribute.

Unfortunately, there are some “subs” that thrive off of drama. The more you respond or get upset or tell them off, the more fun they seem to have. For example, I know a few subs that have responded in such ways like, “You’re not a real, genuine Domme if you’re only in this for money!” or “I’m such a good slave and I had so much to offer you but you’re being ridiculous…” or “I was going to buy a custom clip but now I’m not because of your reaction!” and other such similar statements.

This is absolutely not a position you want to put yourself in. My best advice here is that if a sub starts to even remotely upset you or respond in these immature ways, just end the contact or keep responses short with a re-direct. Your precious time is better spent on something or someone else.

By the way, this goes for Twitter drama, too. Don’t get sucked in!

Always Remember:

Most subs who tribute do so without tons and tons of dialogue!

It’s perfectly acceptable for a Domme to engage in very minimal free chat, especially if it’s one-on-one with a sub. Always do what makes you personally feel the best, not what you think will result in a “maybe” sale.

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