Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?  

I think it has always been an interest of mine though when I was younger it was more along the lines of a state of mind because I didn’t know about the specifics.I enjoyed the power rush just thinking about it gave me. I first began to explore it closer about 10 years ago when I discovered Fetlife, long before I began camming and began doing some research then though I’m not that active on my regular, profile anymore due to camming responsibilities.    

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?  

Actually, while I have been doing fetish shows almost from the first time I began working on cam I’ve only recently officially taken on the title such as it is of Domme. To be honest though in my opinion labels mean little as many women would fit the definition but not refer to themselves in that manner.    

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?  

Well there is memorable as in something very pleasant in which case it’s some very generous gifts from a few guys in particular who I don’t care to mention and there is something that comes completely out of left field in which case it was a guy sounding himself using a long nail with no advance warning as I certainly would have tried to talk him out of it.He hurt himself quite badly.    

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.  

That I’m a surprisingly domestic person who enjoys running a home, planning menus etc.I even have doilies…hangs head in shame and leaves the room…:D    

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?  

That there’s no “right” way to do it. I would often feel like my casual style of dress and makeup ruined the effect because I would see so many glamorous Dommes but I’ve learned that it has nothing to do with what you wear or how you look as it’s what you ARE. The goal isn’t to go for an effect, it’s simply to be.    

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?  

Sadly there seems to be a lot of catty behavior and gossiping going on at least in some circles and that’s not acceptable. Everyone doesn’t have to like each other but this isn’t high school and we should be beyond that. As women, we need to learn to support each other and that applies to everything, not just femdom. Also, I still see many findoms using PayPal which is definitely not acceptable for anyone in the adult industry.    

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?  

I have so many so it’s hard to choose! I really enjoy doing cock and ball torture with someone who uses common sense and follows directions, unlike the sounding guy I mentioned before as well as a variety of roleplays and of course a generous financial submissive always pleases me.    

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?  

Well as a rule if I find it truly displeasing I simply won’t do it. That’s the prerogative of the self-employed after all.For instance, I frequently get requests to smoke and I am very health conscious so this is a definite deal breaker and for the same reason I don’t offer forced intoxication. Teamviewer is something else that I’m not comfortable with due to its nebulous legality when used in that manner as well as the possibility of reverse hacking.    

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?  

I’m a vegetarian so exploring new recipes is something I enjoy and I am a pretty good cook.I had to become one in self-defense as there is only so many veggie burgers one person can eat. I also do a lot of hiking and love the outdoors and find that it’s much better than therapy as if I’m having a bad day a good walk will often turn it around. I enjoy gardening though I must admit to not having a green thumb so the plants probably don’t enjoy it half as much.    

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?  

Yes, it does though as there are so many different aspects of femdom that not all of it does of course. The power rush I get from many shows that go well is a turn on.    

What are some of your turn offs?  

In real life a lack of initiative. It’s one thing to have a bit of bad luck and quite another to just settle on being unsuccessful or lazy and be ok with that. In shows, I truly detest topping from the bottom. Don’t try to control me because that’s not how this works.    

Describe your ideal slave / sub.  

A polite, well spoken gentleman with a large brain and an even larger wallet. Intelligence is sexy to me.    

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?  

A very generous tribute right out of the gate.I’m not talking about the minimum required for me to acknowledge him but something that makes me go “wow, this guy is serious”.    

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?  

I enjoy the feeling of superiority as well as the switching of gender stereotypes and sometimes dishing out abuse is just flat out fun all in itself.    

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these?  

I offer cam shows and clips but no in person meetups. I love both clips and shows though in different ways.The personal interaction that I get from shows especially on Skype where I have more freedom is hard to beat but I do like the idea of someone whom I might not even know exists dreaming of me.    

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?  

Just that regardless of whether you are a Domme or a sub that there is nothing wrong with liking what you like regardless of what other people think. You be you :)  

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