Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

Back in the late nineties, I landed a job in a phone sex call center in lower Manhattan. Even though I was aware of domination, that was was where I really started learning about people’s various fetishes. The office was near some dungeons and clubs. After work, at 6AM some of my coworkers and I went to a fetish club nearby called Hellfire. That’s where I started learning how much I enjoy being Dominant and receiving worship and appreciating from submissive men (and sometimes women).

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

Back when I started, everyone didn’t have a computer yet. Information wasn’t as readily available as it is today and people didn’t know as much about kink as they do today. I read some books, both fiction and non fiction. In real life, kink and domination were kept quiet and underground. Back then, the only way to learn about kink was by witnessing or doing it. Now there are social networks making it much easier to learn from other people with experience.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

I enjoy Domming in public at parties. Sometimes it may be a fetish party, where other people are openly enjoying scenes, but a private scene can also be just between us. Something like having a sub insert a vibrating egg inside himself, while I control it by remote sitting across the dinner table. One of my favorite party scenes was when a girlfriend and I sloshed a sub friend. He got all messy with chocolate syrup, nutella, whipped cream and all sorts of yummy and messy stuff. Then we strategically licked it off him, while instructing some other subs where they should lick him clean.

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

People are sometimes surprised to learn that I volunteer a few hours a week at the local food pantry.

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

For me it’s kind of the opposite: I wish I had known in my teens that some of my activities were in fact part of kink! I knew I did things a little differently than other people. When I got an idea to try something new, I got that look where a guy would tilt his head to try to figure me out. Now I know, it’s because I’m kinky.

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

There seems to be a general perception that dominants are also sadistic, but this isn’t necessarily true. I focus on pleasure more than pain.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

I love role play. We both dress up in costume and pretend we’re in a particular situation is like playing grown up make believe. Sometimes when I dress up a sub who likes cross dressing, I feel similar to how I felt when I was little little playing with dolls, the same way I used to feel when I did a doll’s makeup and hair. The guy becomes my human Barbie. I love having my feet worshipped. It’s a beautiful feeling being worshipped, but when a guy cherishes and treasures my feet, I feel the passion and I love it.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

Unless it is part of a role play, I don’t care for administering pain. I’m not a sadist.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I’m a graphic designer. I enjoy making pretty computer doodles. I also help other flirts design theirNiteflirt listings.

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

Yes it does. Respect turns me on.

What are some of your turn offs?

Introductory emails that say nothing more than “hello” or “how you doing?”

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

Communicates clearly what he wants or needs while respecting my wishes and limits. Above all, he is respectful.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

Thoughtful gifts warm my heart.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

I love creativity and being a FemDomme provides so many ways to be creative.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

Yes, I offer clips, I do cam and I do in person meets. I enjoy making custom clips with specific requests. On Niteflirt, it depends on the caller whether or not I prefer cam. Sometimes, in a good role play, I prefer phone only, but when a guy likes following tasks, I like cam as evidence of completion. There is a dungeon in Manhattan that rents rooms by the hour where I do in person meets. I don’t in person meets right away. I prefer at least one getting to know you call on Niteflirt first.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

Keep your mind open to new things and have fun.

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