Sub Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of female domination/submission and what attracted you to it?

That’s a hard question to answer for me. I could say that I found it within myself as a developing teenager. I’ve fantasized about a beautiful woman dominating me many times as a way of acting out my frustrations. As for the actual femdom world, I’m sure I’ve seen or read about it on the Internet. I remember how I would search the web for expressions of these fantasies but I would never find much. The internet back in the early 2000s already had a lot of content displaying men dominating women, but not much of women doing it to men. The hardest thing to find at that time was ballbusting. There is just something arousing about the idea of a woman dominating a man sexually by using his most precious parts.

Are you a slave to any Domme? If so, explain why you serve Her.

Yes, I am proud to serve Princess Mika. She is the most professional, honest, and well-meaning Domme you’ll ever meet. She is very beautiful but she is so incredibly intelligent. Mika really cares about her subs. She really earned my respect and trust. I don’t just give that to anyone. I’m really speaking from the heart when I say that I am so grateful that I choose her to begin my journey in the FemDom world.

What is one thing you wish you knew about femdom / submission before you started?

I wish I knew how friendly and incredible the Dommes can be in this community. Of course, that only happens if you treat them with a lot of respect and honor. This comes natural to me, but I see a lot of customers disrespecting them. I honestly didn’t expect the Dommes to be as passionate and honest in their work. I thought that they might be uncaring, not trustworthy, and just money-hungry. This is completely untrue. A real professional Domme will always be sure to make you feel comfortable in this relationship. If you respect her; she will respect you. There is the game and then there is real life. Any Domme that has made this her life’s work will ensure real life will remain safe and consensual.

What are your favorite fetishes and why?

I love the concept of women dominating men sexually especially when women take full control of a man’s penis and testicles. So, some arousing fetishes are mild cock & ball torture, ballbusting (fantasy), Jerk Off Instruction, Goddess worship, and some others. Otherwise, I would say that I’m actually pretty vanilla most of the time. I need to be in the mood for FemDom.

As for being straight vanilla, I enjoy loving passionate sex and erotic expressions with women. I dislike the rough and violent sex acts that have become common in pornography.

In “real life”, do you consider yourself successful? In other words, were you born a sub or are you a sub by choice?

I was totally born as a sub. I often work best when serving others in meaningful, thoughtful ways. I’m a good listener, advisor, and teacher for friends and family. I can be too compassionate for my own good. As I mention at the top of this interview that I have always struggled against others to find my place in this world. A submissive life can be rewarding if it’s in the service of those who deserve your time, energy, and devotion. Ideally, your life should have a balance between dominance and submission.

What is your favorite aspect of being a sub?

The praise and appreciation that I receive from my Domme, Princess Mika. It is very powerful to have her praise and receive rewards for good behavior. People are often taken for granted and/or meaningless praise is given in real life. This is not the case with the Princess. She is able to assign a high value on the love she gives her subs by making them earn it through good behavior. This reward system is part of what makes her such a successful Domme.

Is there anything that a Domme does or could do that would turn you completely away? Or, if you have served a Domme before and left, why did you leave?

A Domme can turn me away completely by breaking my trust and confidence. Once broken, it’s hard to regain. Also, anyone that don’t respect my humanity.

Is there anything you would like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

I would tell both Dommes and Subs to remember that both sides are real people just like yourself and must be respected and valued. Do not idealize or fantasize too much. We are in this world for a reason. Don’t be afraid to communicate your fears and needs. Be honest to each other. You are both in a unique situation that enable the other to be your true selves and develop a bond that is difficult to achieve in normal everyday life. Don’t ruin it.

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