Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

Honestly, as a sensual domme I’ve never liked taking orders, and love finding new things that make people tick. I don’t tend to do much of the angry domme archetype as much as a caretaker. I also enjoy power play very much and do a sort of combo of it and sensual domination to where if I’m doing something like a humiliation show, it generally will be more seductive with sharp mean comments rather than just laughing at them haha.      

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

I’ve been working online as a domme since 2013, though I did some BDSM shows here and there since 2012. When I started sex work I was very vanilla, and knew NOTHING about BDSM or kink, Thankfully I found many who guided me through their kinks, and shared info on how to learn more.      

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

I’ve always enjoyed puzzle solving, and frankly that’s how I look at my job. It’s a fun challenge for me. I’d say most of my favorite moments involve me helping someone figure out why they feel the way they do about their kink. I love working through to the “Ah hah” moment with them. Often times they’ll go from having what they consider a “humiliation fetish” to wanting to do a less humiliating more sensual role play of it once they can pin an explanation to why they love it. Usually they go from being very shy or disgruntled to being much more open and friendly, all due to finally feeling like they understand themselves.   I think me going from vanilla to femdomm really helped me to understand the feel of the mindset of many who come to me too. I know it’s hard pushing through that fear of the unknown, but once you’re passed it’s so freeing!      

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

Hmm lemme think…I used to be a very shy person who actually had a phobia about sex. I was like this until about half-way through college. This was in large part due to growing up in a very conservative environment. Probably wouldn’t expect a person who has hundreds of xxx clips to have started masturbating after her senior year of high school, and didn’t have sex until the guy she married (now divorced)…yeah there’s a reason I have the long hair of a home-schooled Disney princess.      

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

You can’t please everyone, and THAT’S OKAY! Like I said, I tend to be a care-taking domme. This was especially trying when I first started due to people often only knowing of the type of femdom who is a humiliatrix or a princess type. Though the term “Daddy dom” is frequently used, if you say Mommy domme people think you must only be into incest…um no that isn’t what that necessarily means. I would often be labeled as not mean enough. I think that’s when I started wondering if I was being insulted or not. Of course on the flip-side I’ve had trolls label me as too mean after I wouldn’t cater to something that was in my hard limits, not realizing that that actually can be a good review for many of my clients.      

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

As I said in my previous answer…teach them archetypes of BDSM. There is such a wide spectrum of dominant and submissive! – Age players – Bondage – Brats – Brat Tamers – Daddy/Mommy – Degradation – Experimentalists – God/Goddess – Littles – Master/Mistress – Masochists – Owners – Queen/King – Pets – Primal – Sadists – Sensual – Switches – Vanilla – Voyeurs I think this covers a good amount of them, but as you can see how it can be frustrating when a person gets annoyed due to thinking all act one way.      

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

Those who visually entertain or entertain through chat or role play are normally my favorites. It’s always flattering to be body, but I find it much more interesting when I’m having to think about it.   Some role plays I’ve enjoyed have involved things like school teacher, nurse, step-mom, supernatural/magical control, bisexual encouragement, office domination, nurse, impregnation fantasy, confrontation and love confessions. I especially love it when I can ad-lib after they throw me a curve ball of a fetish I’ve never done before (though I prefer knowing before the show obviously)      

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

Pretty much all of my turn offs are against camsite rules anyhow (vomit, bestiality, toilet play etc) I tend to not enjoy watching pain all that much outside of spanks, flogging or caning so I’ll always ask exactly what a guy plans on using if say I’m about to do a cock & balls torture session. Not into religious role play (due to my background it’s a bit too PTSD for me) though I’m good with say being referred to as Goddess and worshiped.   As long as it’s sane, safe, and consensual (and not illegal) I will gladly do what I can to point a member in the direction of where they can find something if I don’t personally offer it.      

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

Drawing, crafts, working out, and reading are my main hobbies.      

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

It does. I love confrontation. I adore power play. Like I said…I enjoy puzzles. Probably an ideal relationship for me would be another dominant or a bratty sub and maybe another sub as a slave who’d allow us to do whatever with them. I wouldn’t want to only have a slave though.      

What are some of your turn offs?

Desperate neediness and selfishness.      

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

My ideal is a brat. I love brats. They aren’t the types to simply agree with everything you say. They tend to be honest. Yes, they also tend to be troublesome mischief makers at times but they are so entertaining especially when they’re put into their place.      

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

First-don’t waste my time. If you want to have a good time with me don’t ask me paragraphs of questions that double as dirty talk. For instance, I have tons listed about what I do in shows.   Second-get to know me. Don’t assume I will try to fit your mold of an ideal domme. Do ask “Do you do like to do xyz fetish?” Don’t ask “What would you like to do?” or “What do you do?” Give me information of the kind of show, and I’ll add the domination angle once we agree. When I offer CEI, CBT, sissy training, JOI along with many other kinks and abbreviations…I’m not going to play online psychic.      

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

Something along the lines of the phrasing “What do you mean pick? Aren’t you supposed to take control?”      

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I don’t offer in person, though I have worked in person with camgirl friends. I love working with fellow cammers; especially ones whom I have great chemistry.   I personally much prefer live cam over clips. I tend to be a perfectionist, and due to clips not being live, I constantly feel like I could’ve done better. I also think live camming offers a certain something you can’t capture with customs. I do offer customs, and to make sure I don’t go over the top constantly redoing the video when it’s fine the way it is (haha) I always promise to have it done within a week.      

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

I suppose the only thing I can add is to simply be yourself. Not everyone will be looking for you, nor will everyone you’re attracted to physically be the one for whom you’re looking. When they fail to meet your expectations, take a deep breath and know that there are many other possibilities out there. Don’t let one person spoil your time…unless they’re spoiling you in a good way. <3  

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