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There are a handful of subs that claim online Dommes are not genuine in their domination because they require payment. I know that this is a sensitive topic that can get pretty heated. So, I shall shed some light on this topic simply to share My perspective.

Supply & Demand

I wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t notice something this obvious but take a good, hard look around you.

There are a lot more male subs than there are female Dommes.

What does this mean? It means that female Dommes can be a lot more picky with which subs We choose to interact with. We are a hot commodity and very high in demand, after all. If you are not meeting Our expectations as a sub, it really is your loss. There are many subs that can replace you and would be happy to comply with Our demands.

Sincerity

With so many subs available to choose from, We Dommes have the task of filtering through you all. One of the easiest and most effective ways to do that is by requiring payment. By requiring payment, We can quickly see who is serious and sincere in serving Us and who is not.

I’m sure some of you are still convinced that you can be sincere without cash. Maybe that’s true but you have to understand #3.

It’s Our Job

There seems to be a disconnect that for some subs that, just because FemDom can be, or is enjoyable to Dommes, She shouldn’t require payment. This is a very bad assumption to have.

For many Dommes, being an online Dominatrix is our job. Whether it is full time, part time or on the side, doing online FemDom takes time and work that deserves to be compensated for. Not to mention, many times, there is a risk for Dommes in putting Ourselves out there. Unlike subs, we cannot remain completely anonymous by hiding our face for instance.

Speaking for Myself, I certainly work all day between filming and editing clips, running My membership site and performing live on cam. Although all of this is mostly enjoyable for Me, it still takes up the majority of My day. Earning money from all of this is what enables Me to continue creating clips, maintaining My membership site and performing on cam.

Paying is Respectful

By paying, you are respecting the Domme, Her time, Her superiority and Her work. You are sacrificing something of value and giving it to your Domme instead of being completely selfish in your desires.

I know, you might be thinking that you aren’t selfish. You wanted to do some other “useful” and/or “selfless” task. Maybe you wanted to create graphics or humiliate yourself, for example, which doesn’t cost anything. Then, when the Domme doesn’t accept this, you are offended that she requires payment and therefore she can’t be genuine.

The truth of the matter is that She doesn’t need graphics made or another sub She has to give tasks to humiliate himself. You are pushing what you want to do for Her on the Domme, which is the opposite of being respectful and the opposite of being a sub. It isn’t about you and your desires. It is about Hers. In fact, you have some serious entitlement issues if you think that the Domme spending free time with you to humiliate yourself is really a selfless act for Her benefit.

Paying Makes it Fun

For many Dommes, Myself included, much of the enjoyment we get out of our FemDom sessions and clips is because it was paid for. Following the humiliation tasks in a clip that you paid for makes it extraordinarily hilarious to Me, for example. Same with online sessions. You are paying Me to make fun of your small dick, for another example. Paying also puts you in your place. This is very important.

Removing the monetary aspect makes the sessions not nearly as fun. Any sub can humiliate himself… it is the act of paying to be humiliated that takes things to the next level and that is an aspect many Dommes really enjoy. So, if you are truly in this to serve a Domme and have Her happiness in mind first, well, you know what you have to do.

Online Domination is a Service

At the end of the day, online domination is a service that a sub must pay for. With so many male subs and very few female Dommes, it is a very in demand and highly requested, sought after service. Speaking for Myself, there are hundreds of subs that interact with Me daily, whether that’s by enjoying My membership site, enjoying My clips or obtaining a live show on cam. It works well for so many Dommes and subs alike. You have the choice in whether or not you want to hop on board or not.

If you are truly not into paying for the domination you need online, then the worst thing you can do is to try to get an online dominatrix to fulfill your submission needs for free. It is not only like looking for a lemon in an apple tree but it is completely disrespectful that will most likely result in many Dommes simply blocking you.

There are plenty of BDSM dating sites and forums that are focused on BDSM relationships without the exchange of money. No Domme is telling you that you are forced to pay for domination. Rather, Dommes are requiring you to pay if you want domination from Them. There is a big difference. Likewise, you should respect the Dommes that do require payment and if it’s not your thing, you can simply move on.

Most of Us are Genuine

If it isn’t clear by now, I will make it crystal clear:

Most Dommes are genuine!

Requiring money for Our domination does not make us any less genuine. Period.

Looking at this more logically, let’s think about the top online Dommes for a moment from, say, the top 50 FemDommes from IWantClips, which I Myself am apart of.

Do you really think I and the rest of My fellow Dommes that consistently stay in the top 50, are there because We aren’t genuine? Could it really be that there is a constant influx of new subs that are constantly getting scammed? Get real.

The fact is that We’re awesome and very good at what We do, which includes having a genuine interest in domination. It keeps subs constantly coming back for more and more and more.

In My opinion, life is too short to be all worked up over this issue. It can be as simple as participating in paid, online domination or not. There really is no need to be disrespectful or to make outrageous claims that We aren’t genuine or anything of the sort. You have your opinion and we have Ours, and if it’s not a match, it would be nice to co-exist, respectfully. I’m confident there are other issues, that are way more important than what gets you off sexually, that you can focus your energies on. World hunger? Cure for cancer? Sponsoring an animal?