Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I discovered the fetish world in general by way of the goth clubs in Hollywood. When I was first introduced to fetish, I was turned off by the fake Doms trying to talk me into doing things I didn’t want to. Fast forward a few years to my first time in Berlin. I went to a Depeche Mode fetish party and it was excellent! I was around people who understood BDSM and consent. I was exposed to a sense of sexual freedom and hedonism I’d never witnessed in person before. It was a positive and thrilling experience.      

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

I’ve been a Domina in my personal life for many years. I took some training in a professional dungeon in Los Angeles as a submissive before moving to Europe. I am now officially a pro Domme since last year.      

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

The most memorable moment for me was the first time I used a human ashtray! That was a fun experience because I was being introduced to a fetish I hadn’t tried before. I didn’t know if I would like it, but I’m glad I tried it because it’s now one of my favorite forms of torture and humiliation!      

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I love playing Dungeons and Dragons! I’m a total nerd!      

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

I wish I had known that it’s okay to be a beginner Pro Domme and that there are such a big online network for online FemDom. I put off going into FemDom professionally because I thought I needed fancy equipment and a fully furnished dungeon space. I realize now that I was holding myself to the standards of very experienced Dominas who have been working for decades! So I would recommend to any aspiring Domme out there do your research and then go get your feet wet! This is the type of career that requires hands on training and where you never stop learning. Embrace the journey and go for it.      

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

One thing I’d love to see change is the emergence of “instadommes”. Everyone starts somewhere, and it should be okay to admit that. But it troubles me deeply to see so many “dommes” who have no idea what negotiation, sub space, or aftercare is. Even in an online setting, it’s important to respect your sub and practice safe, sane, and consensual BDSM. This goes both ways, many subs online are too impatient and rushing into BDSM without understanding how it works. With the plethora of free and useful information out there, there is no excuse for such behavior except greed.      

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

My favorite fetishes are tease and denial combined with punishment and humiliation. I love setting up impossible situations for my subs and watching them squirm! If we are in person, I enjoy smoking torture and spankings.      

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

I’m not into scat. It’s just not something that has ever turned me on.      

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I enjoy being creative in my spare time. This covers a lot of things! I pole dance, sew costumes for my burlesque acts, make latex clothing, write poetry and stories, and I recently discovered I love DJing!      

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

Definitely! I’ve been kinky for as long as I can remember. There is something about the chemistry of the power exchange between a submissive and a dominant that fascinates me. There is something thrilling about being given control over someone’s body and mind, taking that person’s trust, and pushing their boundaries to explore both of our sexualities.      

What are some of your turn offs?

Begging and manipulation. It always has been. Show me why you deserve my time. Be frank and honest about what you want. Begging and manipulation will only irritate me. Begging and manipulation will not work in a subs favor with me. Guaranteed!      

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

An ideal sub or slave is secure enough in their own identity to know what they want but is also open to new experiences and fetishes. They would be open and honest about their limits. But they would also be open to truly relinquish control to Me and trust I will satisfy their kinky desires.      

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

Show their dedication through actions and not hollow words.      

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

The aspect of being a Domina that I love the most is the freedom! There is freedom of sexuality and creative expression I haven’t encountered anywhere else!      

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I offer each of these services. My personal favorite is in person sessions since there is a special element of intimacy that isn’t present in other arrangements. This is definitely the most special for me!   My early experiences as a Domina were all in person, so it naturally holds a certain fondness. There are so many things that can’t be done over the phone or on cam that can be offered in person.   As for making clips, I do enjoy this as well. I love the control I have over making a clip. It can become whatever fantasy I come up with (or my sub, if it is a custom clip). Although there are certain constraints to clip making, I look at them as challenges or puzzles. This outlook makes it incredibly fun!   When it comes to camming, this is my least favorite method. That isn’t to say I don’t enjoy it. I do, but I prefer in person sessions. I do two types of cam shows.   The first is the traditional one on one session. My sub and I are private and uninterrupted by outside chatter. This is ideal for many reasons, including being able to have more intense sessions!   The second type of show is more like a fetish party. This is great when many of my subs are online at once and we have great time having a kinky chat and playing kinky games!     Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?  

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

Thanks for getting to know me! Follow me on social media and check out my website to learn more about me or to book a show or photoshoot. Remember to fly your kink flag high and proud.  

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