Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I first discovered FemDom through my work as a camgirl. I would assume the fact that I was constantly bitching at men viewing my cam for trying to dominate me or my room is what attracted more submissive men to my shows. From them, I was introduced to the wonderful world of FemDom which, in my opinion, was meant to be! I am a naturally dominant woman, I have always liked to be the one in control and in charge. It does not surprise me at all that I have turned that into a career for myself, I only wish I knew about FemDom much sooner!

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

Officially I have been a Domme for 4 years as of September 2017. The main thing I have noticed is that there has been a huge increase of women adverting as Dommes, especially FinDommes. Another thing I’ve noticed is the increase in Dommes creating and selling clips, myself included! I only recently started creating and selling FemDom clips and it is something that I really enjoy now.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

My most memorable moment as a Domme has been having a slave take me shopping at the mall, buying me an entirely new wardrobe, giving me a large cash tribute and dropping down to his knees in the middle of the food court at my local mall and worshiping my feet in front of everyone!

Other memorable moments have been receiving large tributes, both in person and online. Also having a sub purchase 10 pairs of shoes at once off of my wishlist, which they happened to be delivered to me on the first night of Hanukkah!

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

A lot of people might be surprised to know that before I got into the adult industry, I went to Culinary school and I specialized in Baking and Patisserie. I have enjoyed cooking and baking since I was little and a lot of my baking skills were actually self taught. I had originally planned on becoming a professional ballerina up until a back injury ended my dance career right after high school. So naturally, I decided to pursue my second passion, which was cake decorating. Apart from my work as a Domme, I also own a small baking business that I currently run from my home where I specialize in making custom cakes as well as other pastries and deserts.

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

I wish I had known more about how to price my services before I started out as a Domme. Looking back, I definitely sold myself short for the first year or so. But with time, I came to see my value and I adjusted my prices accordingly. With each year my prices increase, especially for my Real Time sessions. My time is valuable and meeting with me in person is the ultimate reward, therefore, it will be very costly. Those who truly want to worship me as a Goddess and serve me in person have no problem paying the hefty price!

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

If I were able to change one thing about the FemDom industry, it would definitely be to completely eliminate the time wasters and the instadommes! Time wasters are the scum beneath my shoes and instas step into FemDom without really knowing what they are doing, they entertain the time wasters which then makes the time wasters think they can get away with their nonsense with any Domme. The two go hand in hand in my opinion and both need to be eradicated.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

Foot Fetish is my absolute favorite, I have amazing feet and I love to have them worshiped and pampered! Being a former ballerina, I am able to move my feet in a way that most women cannot. I have extremely high arches that look especially amazing in a pair of high heels. Which leads me to my next fetish that I love to indulge in: High Heels Fetish. When shopping for shoes, high heels are the first thing I look at. I own over 35 pairs of heels and am constantly adding more to my collection.

Aside from those two, I really enjoy ball busting, SPH, and pegging. Giving a swift kick to the nuts is very exciting to me and each time I do, I get a huge adrenaline rush. Humiliating men for something that is out of their control, like the size of their penis, at first confused me. But I quickly became fond of it and it allows me to really let out my bitchiest side. Pegging for me is very enjoyable because it is really all about the control. I was first introduced to pegging by a former partner when I was just 19 and at the time I had no idea that it had an actual name. That was my first true taste of power exchange and from that point on, I was hooked!

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

My least favorite fetish is definitely race play, racial humiliation or anything that fetishizes a persons race or skin tone. I am multiracial and race play for me is a touchy subject. I do not indulge in it at all and I personally do not agree with it. In my opinion it is racist and being a multiracial Domme, I am often fetishized because of the color of my skin.

I had one particular instance when I first started in the adult industry, where a customer wanted to do a role play where he was my master and I was his house slave and that I had to do everything he said and reply with “yes master, I am your n***** bitch”. I was dumbfounded, literally speechless! I am 50% African American and I can trace half of my family back to slavery in Virginia. Race play disgusts me on all levels. Other Dommes can do whatever they’d like with it, that’s their choice. But for me, the mere mention of race play by a customer results in them being blocked instantly.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I have many hobbies outside of FemDom! Of course there is baking and cake decorating as I had previously mentioned. But I also enjoy reading, spending time with my two dogs, paddle boarding, jigsaw puzzles with 1500+ pieces, shopping, visiting museums and art galleries, and going to concerts. This past year I was lucky enough to see The Weeknd, Vanessa da Mata, Petit Biscuit, and Andrea Bocelli in concert!

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

FemDom absolutely turns me on! The control and power is very arousing and as I’ve mentioned, the power exchange is very exhilarating. In my personal life I do incorporate a few aspects of FemDom into my relationship, especially manipulation. I am an expert manipulator and have been since I was young. I like things to go my way and I almost always get what I want. Manipulating men comes easily to me, so much so that half the time I do not even realize that I’m doing it!

What are some of your turn offs?

Cheapness, rudeness, lack of respect, and cockiness are my biggest turn offs!

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

My ideal slave/sub is a man or woman who is genuine, respectful, well mannered, eager to please, obedient, and is able to show initiative. I like when subs are authentic and not just telling me what they thing I want to hear. Obedience and an eagerness to please are both essential to a D/s relationship, in my opinion. When a sub shows initiative, to me that demonstrates that they know what needs to be done and instead of waiting to be commanded, they take it upon them self to see it done. Initiative goes hand in hand with eagerness to please, that sub is going above and beyond in order to please me.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

What would impress me the most would be if a sub were to purchase all of my clips all at once, one giant order and use my markup code. To me that is impressive and is a sure way to gain my attention.

Aside from that, large tributes and expensive wishlist purchases are a good way to please me.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

My favorite aspect of being a FemDomme is definitely the freedom it gives me! I have the freedom to express myself the way I want and not have to worry about being judged for my style or technique. It also gives me the freedom to maintain my other business, which can be quite time consuming sometimes. It allows me to be financially secure while not having to slave away working at a job I hate and answering to a boss.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I love performing in clips! I have only been doing it for about 5 months now and I’m still learning a lot about angles and lighting but so far it has been a lot of fun for me! I also enjoy doing sessions through Skype, which allows me to interact with my subs and get to know them more personally. Skype also allows my subs to get to know me and see more of my day to day personality, which is not always the same FemDom personality they see when watching my clips. Seeing me perform in person is the ultimate reward for a sub. This is where they can get the full experience of me, my dominance, and the complete feel of power exchange. I enjoy performing in person a lot because it really allows me to physically be in control. It is a lot more enjoyable to punch a man in the balls as opposed to telling him “punch yourself in the balls” and watching him do it through Skype or ordering a slave to get on his knees and lick the dirt from the bottoms of my shoes and actually standing over him as he tongues my shoes is so much more satisfying than imaging him doing so in a clip.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

To my fellow Dommes: I am extremely honored to be one of your peers, I am always in awe of all the talent, beauty, brains, and success I see among you all! Keep being amazing and I wish you all nothing but success and happiness!

And to the subs: Always be mindful of your manners, show respect to all Dommes at all times and to women in general. If you are looking to serve a particular Domme, approach her with respect and a tribute! If you see that she has a website, make sure you read it thoroughly prior to approaching her. And above all, do NOT waste her precious time!

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