Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I first realized I was into FemDom in college when I read Leopold von Sacher-Masoch’s Venus in Furs, but I knew I was into dominating men long before. I found the power Wanda had over Severin so exciting and appealing. Years later I got into financial domination and chose the name Venus after that book.

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

April actually marks my second year Domming. Navigating social media has becoming increasingly harder. When I first started no one was worried about being shadow banned. I think that’s really the biggest thing that has changed. Sadly, with FOSTA/SESTA I believe online platforms are only going to restrict us more in the near future.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

Sadly, my most memorable experience I can’t divulge to protect the client’s privacy, but I promise you it’s quite the story. One of my favorite memories was from this year’s Xbiz LA when Ginger Banks, Johnny Stone, and I booed Ron Jeremy off stage at the Porn Star Strip Off. It felt so good to force that trash bag off the stage.

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I dumpster dived all through college and oddly often miss those times.

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

I wish I had known how to handle time wasters better. I really got scammed by time wasters in all of the classic ways. I think the only two scams I didn’t fall for was the Victoria Secret scam and the Amazon gift card phishing scam that one guy was pulling when I first started.

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

Whoraphobia. I haven’t really seen much whoraphobia from the dommes I associate myself with, but I have seen it on my timeline. Dommes criticizing other sex workers who do nudity or escort. I can’t with it. All sex workers need to stand together against the oppression we’re facing as a community.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

Financial domination is by far my favorite. I’m a greedy brat. After that humiliation. I’m sooooo cruel, and I love taking out my anger on men. As far as in person I really love ball busting.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

I have a number of hard limits (BBC, homewrecking, and racial humiliation for example). I don’t participate in anything I don’t feel 100% comfortable with. I don’t do BBC because it fetishizes and objectifies black men. I refuse to do homewrecking because my goal in FemDom is to uplift women. I teach my subs to respect their partners and put their needs ahead of their own. Racial humiliation is something I’ve been very vocal about not participating in. I could never demean a person of color for their race even in a fantasy setting.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I enjoy dancing, yoga, hiking, audio books, Tantric sex, walking all over NYC aimlessly, pinball, death match wrestling, baths, and traveling. Are Prosecco and masturbation hobbies?

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

My own personal power turns me on, but I don’t masturbate to the thought of domming or humiliating men.

What are some of your turn offs?

Needy subs, men who don’t value my time or have large egos, being called “Princess”, and waiting. Oh. And I hate Niteflirt calls that end with a sub cumming and immediately hanging up on me. I get it. They’re done and probably filled with shame at that point, but they can at least be respectful and exit the call properly.

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

Generous, sacrificing, caring, communicative but not needy, willing to learn, and eager to engage in the sex worker’s rights movement.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

Make a large financial sacrifice to me followed by a respectful and well written email.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

I love working for myself and having complete agency over my life, business, and schedule.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I love performing in clips. I offer cam and in person but not often and primarily to regularly tributing subs and fetishists.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

I would love for subs and fetishists to educate themselves on issues sex workers are currently facing, contact their government officials to lobby for us, educate others in their lives about issues we face, and donate to sex work organizations. People are losing their income, becoming homeless, and being robbed, assaulted, raped, and murdered because of the recent closure of adult advertising platforms and SESTA/FOSTA. Those that are already the most marginalized are being hit the hardest. We need your help!

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