Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I’ve been interested in kink since I can remember. I used to read BDSM books in high school and when I was in 10th grade I wanted to be a sex therapist (still do!) Once I was out of school and old enough to actually explore kink I hopped right on it. I started exploring all aspects and domination was something that eventually just came naturally to me.

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

Professionally I started dabbling in it about 10 years ago. I started doing it full time 6 years ago. There has been so much change over the years. I think a lot of girls are getting into this industry for the wrong reasons/because they think they can make quick money. While I’m glad this lifestyle has gotten somewhat more mainstream, I think that brings along a lot of people who lack the understanding of what this is all really about. I’ve encountered a lot of girls who don’t have even a basic understanding of kink/fetishes and that should really be the first step before you try to make this happen as a profession.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

All the large cash gifts I’ve been given over the years will always be memorable to me haha. But aside from cash, the time that a sub fully sucked himself off on cam for me is something I will never forget. You definitely don’t see that everyday! lol

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I am a trained crisis counselor and I volunteer weekly on a suicide prevention help line. There’s a lot of duality in my life and helping people in that kind of way definitely help keeps me balanced. PS- If any fellow ladies/dommes are interested in doing this, please reach out to me!

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

Honestly I had a great journey to get where I am today. I explored A LOT lol. I think that if I had known how much social media would become an influence on the industry I would have stayed consistent with it and built an online following early. When I started I really neglected social media and I am just now becoming regular with it.

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

The idea that, if a woman chooses to engage in certain activities, shes not a “real” Domme. “Real” dominance is living as you choose, doing what you want, when you want, and self indulging yourself to the fullest. A woman can have as many sexual partners as she wants, show whatever body parts she wants to whoever she wants to, offer ANY sexual service….and that has nothing to do with her ability to be an amazing Dominant

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

Financial Domination is the obvious answer lol…but….Sissification/Forced bi is definitely at the top for me as well. I have always found the idea of turning a male into my perfect Bimbo Barbie so fun and alluring. Its the perfect taboo. My next favorite would have to be blood play. I am a vampire after all! Though I really only practice this in my personal life with my lifestyle submissive.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

Hmmm….that’s a tough one. I have very few hard limits and my fetish world is always changing. Right now I honestly can’t think of a fetish that I dislike!

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

Cooking! I was a professional chef before I started doing this full time! I absolutely love having dinner parties and cooking for my friends. I really love jigsaw puzzles lol. I know that’s a such a random thing but I’ve loved doing them forever. The bigger the better ;)

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

It 100% turns me on. Of course whipping and slapping a male is sexy, but I get off on the power and feeling over the physical parts of it.

What are some of your turn offs?

Cheap males….just gross. Bad hygiene, A closed mind. Someone who wants to be told what to do and when to do it, every moment of the day. I think that’s my BIGGEST turn off. That’s not submission. That’s wanting a parent. And I have zero desire to ever be one of those lol

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

Cultured, wealthy, handsome, well mannered and not needy. Someone who appreciates me as a woman who enjoys the finer things in life, and has no problem providing such. One that doesn’t always need to be told exactly how to please me (see question #11). AND, since I am actually a lifestyle Dominant, one that could accompany me in the ‘real world’ and find a balance between the relationship that the world sees and how things are behind closed doors. I would have zero issues dating a submissive who could do it all!

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

I’m quite hard to impress. Mostly because I refuse to praise males for doing what I feel they should already be doing….whatever it takes to make me happy. Now, what would please me is a submissive who consistently tributed large amounts while expecting nothing in return. A sub that was made happy by seeing me happy. Oh….and sends me puzzles! lol

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

I can’t even list all the things I love about this career/lifestyle. It truly is, in my eyes, the best job a woman could have. You have freedom to live as you please, you can do this anywhere in the world so you’re never stuck in one place, and you are worshiped and adored for just being you. What’s not to love?

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I have set my focus this year on serious clip producing and I am loving it so far. I have so many fetishes that I am personally into, so clip making is a great way to explore them and see what things customers respond to.

I go back and forth with cam phases. Sometimes I’m available every day for a month, sometimes I don’t offer cam sessions for weeks at a time. I prefer camming with regular clients as I feel we build a bond over time and its quite fun. However I am always open to new clients.

There was a time when I was solely doing in person sessions. I absolutely love them. Since my move from the U.S to The Netherlands I have not yet started up in person sessions again. I do plan to, but this time around they will be quite exclusive and only available to those that I have built up a relationship with through other avenues first.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

Ladies- Be yourself. I can’t stress that enough. There are more than enough submissives to go around and they all like something different. You don’t have to be like/copy any other Dommes. Find your way and work it. Don’t sell yourself short. And PLEASE….never stop learning.

Subs- If you are one of those males that needs a Domme to “force/convince’ you to tribute and obey, then you are not a real submissive. None of us find that appealing. Your job as a sub is to show appreciation and respect to us. If you really need to be forced to make this happen, you do not have any real understanding of how a D/S dynamic works.

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