Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I’ve been in the kink scene for about 7 years and actually dabbled in subbing for a time. Eventually, I discovered a way to channel my desire for control into the outlet of FemDom. Now, I enjoy the rush of power exchange and the joy that comes with play built around trust.   How long have you been a domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

I’ve been a Domme for 4 years and there’s definitely a lot that has changed even in that amount of time. There are more girls and women openly in the industry of being a ProDomme than there ever have been. I would call it an oversaturation of the market, honestly. Unfortunately, a lot of these women don’t find that this job suits them and drop out of the lifestyle. But it’s harder than ever for subs to find a good Domme with whom they match well; they have a lot of “instadommes” to filter through.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

Perhaps my favorite moment was a “forced bi” scene I set up for a boy. I had three men with their cocks ready and they used the mouth of my little sub for over an hour. He was so humiliated, but afterward he told me how much he enjoyed the scene. It brings me perverse joy to torture subs who genuinely want to be tortured for my sake.

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I love cooking and baking, especially for people in my life who I care about. When I’m visiting a friend’s house, I never show up empty-handed. I also like to entertain guests at my place. What are some things you wish you knew about being a domme before you started?

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

That it’s about so much more than it appears from the outside. It looks like it’s all leather and whips and chains, but there’s nuance and an understanding of human nature that one needs to connect with and understand the needs of the submissive. Also, that there is no wrong way to Domme. Everyone approaches this differently and, as long as everything is consensual, any approach is valid.

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

I wish there were easier ways to find subs to connect with and that would allow them to find me. Twitter and live cam sites leave much to be desired when it comes to making a quality connection.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

I enjoy various forms of humiliation such as small penis humiliation, verbal humiliation, foot and shoe worship, “forced” bi, and sissyfication. Financial Domination also creates a very interesting kind of rush for me and for the subs that I’ve worked with.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

I refuse to engage in racial humiliation or gay humiliation. I will not use the slurs associated with those fetishes.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I like cooking and baking for myself and friends. I’m also a bit of a beer aficionado. And I’ve been known to play video games from time to time.

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

It really does. Making a strong connection with the right sub is emotionally and mentally arousing in a way that nothing else is. Power exchange in its many forms is a kind of mental aphrodisiac.

What are some of your turn offs?

Whining – it’s not that subs shouldn’t object if they’re genuinely not comfortable, but whining and complaining isn’t the way. I don’t like brats. Begging – I’ll do things my way and if a sub doesn’t like it, then he’s free to find someone else who suits him better. Subs who don’t know what they want – The answer to “What do you want?” is never, “Anything. Whatever. I’ll do whatever you want.” Subs should have needs and wants and be able to clearly explain them.

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

A man, not a boy. A man who is loyal. A man who knows what he is looking for so that I can best suit his needs. A man with opinions, who will give me feedback so that we can be the best match possible. A man who is willing to be pushed outside of his comfort zone. And, if possible, a man with deep pockets who wants to spoil his Mistress.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

Sacrifice is what being a sub is all about. Sacrificing your physical or mental comfort, money, time, and effort are ways in which a sub can show loyalty. Gifts impress me. Money impresses me. Safely pushing yourself further than you thought you could impresses me.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

Sacrifice is what being a sub is all about. Sacrificing your physical or mental comfort, money, time, and effort are ways in which a sub can show loyalty. Gifts impress me. Money impresses me. Safely pushing yourself further than you thought you could impresses me.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

A lot of my time is spent creating digital content and I very much enjoy that. I definitely do more of my Domming online, in one form or another, than I do in person. I’m very selective about who I play with in the flesh. Digital Domming also lets me meet a wider variety of subs and to learn more about honing my craft every day. Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow dommes and subs?

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

Be respectful of one another. 

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