Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

Around the age of 17, what attracted me was and still is the role reversal which often is contrary to ‘social’/patriarchal expectations.

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

A bit more than 2 decades, yes there are difference in that many subs, specially among youth today that are wrongly informed by mainstream media (50 Shades type of crap which confuse unconsesual interaction with genuine BDSM), confused by cheap porn aimed solely to the ‘male gaze’ and internet confusion although there are interesting new comers in the scene as well, such as findoms with an interesting motto, however in the later field there are also a lots of ‘instadoms’ who hardly would figure out how to dominate a man in real life;

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

I’m afraid I cannot disclose these few specific moments, at the discretion of my play pets, yet it was surprising and great to get the chance to have sessions with public figures. I also have a few memorable moments in which I experienced allowing lawful consensual practices I usually decline. I specially loved a group session under the auspice of Mistress Shane (Antwerp, Belgium & USA) and also deeply appreciated how fast a pro-dom from NYC had me connected with a great play venue near Lafayette street in which we also partook in dual session.

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I speak 5 languages, have graduated in mixed-media art school, I have performed Shibari stage performance with Mistress Amrita at Wasteland, Amsterdam. I managed to relocate 5 times in a single year through the EU carrying with it a huge music collection and gears.

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

The amount of time-wasters.

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

It being less cisnormative.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

Heels/boots/feet worship combined with soft to hard trampling, specially facial trampling. Domestic role play. Latex lustration. Face-sitting (giving) and Rimming (receiving). Discrete public play. I also fancy ‘chubby’ types of men and found stronger interest in findom and distance training. I usually prefer and in fact love to be given full-reign in session, so I can stay spontaneous yet capricious and gradually conduct the session from soft to hard in alternance.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

Anything that is beyond basic human decency such as animal, child play and the likes. I’m not to found of men who specially need to crossdress as a way to feel submissive as it only reveal covert or internalised misogyny. I’m not into fire or not so much into needles play (although I’ve seen amazing dom teaching me how to practice the later), I love electrical play though.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I wouldn’t say it’s an hobby, I’m involved in music and the arts. I also love studying, mainly from readings scientific papers, specially about cognitive science but I also read poetry, novels and a lot philosophical or ideological essays. I practice water yoga, love to swim and to travel when the conditions are favorable.

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

Yes. Even more so when the sub comes with a genuinely dedicated mindset.

What are some of your turn offs?

Timewasters, fakers & the likes. Male chauvinist and biased cissexist. However I have learned not to give any of these with much attention.

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

A person which is -entirely- dedicated to me, materially and physically, mind and body, these is not found commonly, so I’m also quiet glad with respectful good consensual play candidates and I mean respectful in -all ways-, in timing and how request or questions are voiced, a person with respect for my time, freedom and status as a unique being, and who so realize that is an honor to interact with Mistress.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

Proceed to the most expensive choice from my IndieBill options or one who would help me secure the living and working space of my dream.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

Freedom. Not being with the herd, not being dependent on any employers schedule and expectations. Although there are -many other- aspects I do enjoy, it all gravitate toward freedom essentially.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I honestly have little experience, being the type of dominatrix which has hired dungeons, BDSM playroom or dated in specific venues since decade, aside of online chat, cam interaction and the likes is somehow new to me but am more interested in it lately because I confront 5 times more time wasters from local request since I relocated in Spain and so I’d rather give my time to the deserving ones through distance training and related form of interactions.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

Nothing in particlular, if not that I think most dominatrixes are pretty unique and that is what makes them beautiful. As for most men it would be a great step in humanity if you would learn not to waste genuine doms precious time, real subs are dedicated and you’ve trained us better and better overtime on how to spot pathetic morons. Femdoms aren’t their for any of your pleasure or witness of any your pathetic pindick or intimate pictures, you are here to serve women. A gift is never given when expecting something in return and I’m a naturally gifted women, I don’t need you, it’s the other way around, mind you that well.

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