Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I grew up in a Female led household. So FemDom has always been at My core. It is so natural to Me that I never even gave it a name – until an insightful lover mentioned that I ‘would be great as a Dominatrix’.

At the time I smiled gently, and didn’t give it much thought. I proceeded to scale the corporate ladder and began consulting for billion dollar corporations. But once I got to this height, I reached a turning point. I realised that despite the perceived success – I was unsatisfied. The financial returns were fabulous – but My mind wasn’t stimulated, My values weren’t addressed and My joy couldn’t find anything in it to hold on to.

So I quit; and I typed into Google what that lover had suggested all those years ago, ‘Dominatrix’ and My location at the time ‘+ Sydney’. This brought Me to an interview with the renowned Salon Kitty’s dungeon – and six years later – I am stimulated, content and joyful in ways that I couldn’t have imagined.

I finally get to truly embrace and express My erotic FemDom nature in My role as an international Dominatrix – and there will be no turning back.

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

This March will be My 6th Anniversary as a ProDomme.

I have always done what suits Me best – and so I can’t exactly give you a totally accurate idea of how the industry around Me has evolved. But I can detail My journey up to this point – and that will likely reveal what doors the industry has been opening…

2012, I started as a Dungeon Mistress
2013, I began holding independent sessions as a Private Mistress, touring around Australia, Asia, Europe and the US
2014, I began owning local and international slaves who serve/d Me daily
2015, I considered filming with fetish porn studios such as KINK.com
2016, I went into semi-retirement and only allowed loyal past slaves to serve Me at My discretion
2017, I opened up limited international session requests again; started working on an online slave training platform; and joined Twitter
2018, I launched My online interactive slave training platform, youwillpleaseME.com; and plan to launch a series of Elite FemDom clips in April 2018

So that said… It looks like the industry has opened up huge online doors. With tools that have empowered content producers to be independent and Mistresses to tour worldwide – rather than for them to be limited to large studios and local dungeons.

But despite the growth in online capacity – I definitely know that there is still a strong need amongst slaves worldwide for offline servitude and intimacy. It even feels like the offline ‘stakes’ are higher as a result. I am accepting tributes and making demands exorbitantly higher than I used to…and My slaves only seem to be gagging more desperately for more.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

The first day I stepped into the Salon Kitty’s dungeon and was terrified and humbled by the power of the established Mistresses there :)
Meeting the first slave that I knew I wanted to take on as My personal slave and confidante, he still serves Me now;
When I treated Myself to ‘professional development’ and served a ProDomme in Berlin, She clarified to Me the power of Our craft, and it was just -so- hot(!);
When I went into semi-retirement and took the time to re-establish My focus and priorities – My love for slave training, slaves, the pampered life and occasional real time intimacy (youwillpleaseME.com, youwillpleaseME.com, youwillpleaseME.com and monthly international sessions).

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I have been on five ten day silent meditation retreats and practice Vipassana meditation for two hours daily. I highly recommend it! It has done all sorts of goodness for Me – but it has also made Me an even better, more nuanced and more powerful ProDomme than I used to be.

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

I honestly couldn’t be where I am if I hadn’t gone through the huge learning process over the years. But if there is one thing that sticks out – focus on finding sweet, reliable, competent and trustworthy slaves – and delegate.

Ah, and take your time to find good accounting and legal representation; turn a slave girl into an assistant/filter; reach out to and help sex worker (led) organizations whenever you can; and know that sex work – is work.

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

The decriminalisation of sex work.

The marginalisation and stigma that I have experienced has almost crippled Me at times – when in fact Professional Domination and FemDom have been My internal saving graces.

I have walked many anxious steps, hiding what I do from a closed minded world. But I now take full advantage of its (mostly) decriminalised status in the markets I hold My businesses in. I run My registrations and accounts in full disclosure of what I actually do with My days (Professional Domination/sex work/otherwise) – and it has helped lift anxieties and grounded Me in standing up against society’s shortcomings.

I wish for this strength for all My FemDom and sex work Sisters worldwide.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

I am SUCH a slave training and protocol fiend – with a HUGE enthusiasm for erotic domination…and total power exchange.

This allows Me to touch on a huge range of kinks and fetishes. But ultimately I deeply enjoy toying, and teasing, and taunting My way into the minds and hearts of those who serve Me – with the end goal being their ultimate, uninhibited and absolutely tasty servitude – to Me.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

I am actually quite diverse and open in My welcoming of fetishes – as long as it is within the context of being useful to/serving Me.

…Now this is not necessarily a fetish but the only thing that I can safely say I do not particularly appreciate are the power dynamics that come from My interaction with brats, SAMs and break me’s. Cheekiness I can enjoy – but I’ve found that those who are deeply into their identity as any of those mentioned are not a good fit for Me. I think it’s simply that I don’t have that kind of patience, and it is not gratifying for Me to ‘break’ someone. I prefer less agitated personalities – and a steady, deep and sustained ‘conversion’…

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I can’t say I’ve ever been much of a hobby person. I usually turn the things I adore into full or at least part time endeavours. This means that I’ve had My time as a professional dancer, choreographer, writer, humanitarian worker, researcher, designer, business owner and strategist. I have first enjoyed those areas and then created worlds and careers out of them. I continue to do this with FemDom. My main endeavour at the moment is My semi-retirement however, so I guess you could say My hobby is keeping a healthy distance between anything resembling work and My day to day – could you call relaxation a hobby? :)

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

I LOVE being obeyed. It could be you crawling lower, if I say so. Or you spending higher, if I command. When you do as I say, I really can’t get more turned on…

What are some of your turn offs?

I guess this brings Me back to the brat, SAM and break me behaviour. To add, I enjoy a certain level of begging, grovelling and challenge – but I like it eloquent and only with a tinge of desperation. The personalities mentioned bring a little too much desperation and agitation to the dance for Me.

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

slave m, Pet M, Plaything N, pet m, oh and so many more! Ok, so they have their own corners that could do with some sharpening – but that’s part of the fun.

I enjoy a slave that has a healthy amount of their own established personality, a high level of intellect – and a readiness to embrace My/their sensuality. A sweet sense of emotional awareness and a healthy dose of kink also helps. From here, I then appreciate adoration, consistency, dedication, devotion – and eventually, total submission…

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

As I love to say…

Do as I say, and – you will please ME.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

That it affords Me the joy of fully expressing My inner nature within a relatable construct – as a powerful, erotic and dominant Female.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

Clips, I have only really shot cinematic clips with professional videographers so far. A mixture of promotional material and teasers. I love how they represent Me and I am comfortable in them as I have acting and modelling experience. But regarding POV clips like the ones in heavy rotation on clip sites – I am still taking baby steps. My editing slave has recently set up a studio for Me – and I will begin My experiments next month – with a planned release for an Elite FemDom Series in April 2018. I’m excited! They will give Me an opportunity to reach an audience who wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford to serve Me/have the balls ;). I will also be able to break down the aspects of what I do and love into smaller pieces – which will be a nice refresher for My slaves when they are away from Me.

Cam, I only touch base individually with My contracted slaves via cam/Skype at the moment. I enjoy it thoroughly as I personally enjoy the upkeep of O/our relationship and the play that W/we can have whilst W/we are apart. At the moment I doubt that I will offer this to an open audience. I prefer the one-on-one dynamic, it feels more charged to Me that way – and I’m a bit of an intensity junkie. Also, from what I know of cam rates I am not sure if My tribute rates would work at all for this audience. Maybe in time…

In Person, this is where I began and this is where I still traverse. It is currently the forum where I have the most experience. It satisfies that one-on-one intensity junkie thing – and there’s really nothing like holding you (or your balls) in My real time grip. That said, I do hold keys, cards and accounts from afar – but to Me this is still an intimate affair; and all My person and theirs are still heavily involved.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

I was recently asked if there’s anything that I’d like to say to newbie real time subs in particular. But when I read it back I realised that it worked quite well for Dommes too. I’ll share it word for word here:

Read up – Forums, Dommes ads/websites;
Respect Dommes and Their time – understand They are likely more aware, skilled and sharper than you are;
Take your time to find Someone you are comfortable with;
Commit to Y/your time together;
Surrender as best you can;
Thank Her and know that you are potentially changed for the better (if you did your research);
Repeat, whilst then informing yourself on the decriminalisation of sex work – this will alleviate any of that bullshit stigma that you will likely put back on yourself as well;
Know you are not alone, and that you’ve at least got My backing

Always,
Mistress Eva xx

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