Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I got into FemDom in kind of a surprising way-I started in the adult industry as a camgirl, thinking I’d be a submissive performer. I quickly learned that while submission seemed like the best fit, I would be taking no orders. I didn’t enjoy it, and it didn’t work for Me. My ‘look’ lent itself well, however, to FemDom. Before I knew it I had requests for humiliation, something I’d never tried before. SPH was the first thing I ever tried in the world of Female Dominance, and I instantly fell in love. It was a completely unique experience, and I knew that I was definitely going to keep going. Over the next year, as My experience grew and changed, I knew that this was where I wanted to be.      

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

I’ve been more serious about domination in the last year and a half or so, and I’ve noticed a lot more changes about Myself than the industry itself. The only thing I’ve really noticed is that it has become much more mainstream, which has its pros and cons!      

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

Far and away My most memorable moment as a Domme was actually an experience I had with three people who don’t identify as subs. In November 2016 I flew out to Seattle and doled out FemDom punishments on a gameshow-style episode of a fairly popular podcast, The Drunken Peasants. It started as a silly idea for a commemorative 300th episode show, and ended up becoming something huge. It was an amazing experience- it was silly and fun, but also a great bonding moment. That was probably My “I’m a ‘real’ Domme” moment, to have achieved what seemed like a really lofty goal. Finding subs who I’ve had truly deep connections with has also been something I hold very dear, because it takes time and dedication to make those dynamics work. Another really great “I’m a ‘real’ Domme” moment was the first time I had an intense draining session. A sub had tributed $500 in one week-the first time I had gotten such a big tribute at once. He later decided he needed more punishment, and racked up over $2,000 on a Retweet game. That was incredibly empowering-it felt amazing to have achieved that. It was when I first started out with FinDom-a true passion of Mine. It was very rewarding to feel that I was doing it “right”.      

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I think the thing subs are most surprised to find out about Me is that I did start as a submissive performer. They’re also usually surprised by the fact that I have a partner- a non-submissive male partner.      

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

I wish I had known that, contrary to My answer to #3, there is no one way to be a “real” Domme. I was so worried about following ‘rules’ that I forgot the most important part of it all: I make the rules. We all have milestones I think we like to judge ourselves by, but if I had been less afraid to make a mistake, I could have been so much less stressed!      

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

If I could change one thing about FemDom, it would be the subs ;) Mostly I kid, but on a serious note I think that submissives often try to top from the bottom, particularly when it comes to money. I think there should be less of a stigma about ProDom- just because a Domme is charging for Her time and attention doesn’t make Her any less dominant than a purely Lifestyle Domme. There is a very pervasive mentality of, “if you don’t do it for free you’re not a real Domme”. I just don’t subscribe to that, and I think it would benefit everyone-Dommes and subs alike- to let go of that idea.      

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

My favourite fetishes are so widely varied, but SPH, cuckolding, and humiliation will always make the list. There are so many ways to play and explore-there are very few fetishes I won’t enjoy.      

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

The list of fetishes I don’t enjoy is very short. However, it does exist! It is as follows: incest and raceplay. These things just aren’t My cup of tea!      

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I love performing- singing, dancing, acting. Baking, cooking, and Netflix binges also top My list of fun things to do! I’m also very politically active, which I think is something most people are very surprised by, or don’t know about Me. I post often about politics, but I don’t think people know how involved I really am!      

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

The answer to this question has always eluded Me, until recently. The feeling I get from FemDom is just different from normal sexual arousal. It definitely turns Me on, but the excitement and arousal I feel is something apart from just what I enjoy in bed. That’s the best way I can put it!      

What are some of your turn offs?

Gross fingernails really turn Me off- really, bad hygiene in general. I’m also incredibly turned off by cockiness or entitlement. Nothing will get a swifter rejection from Me than either of those.      

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

My ideal slave/sub has one crucial quality: a true, deep, sincere desire to serve Me. Beyond selfishness, beyond their orgasms, beyond our playtime and chat- serving Me for My sake makes him truly happy. That is always the primary quality I look for in anyone who wants to serve Me longterm. He is also prompt, courteous, and always excited to tribute Me. He loves pampering and spoiling Me, and knows how he wants to play during a session.      

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

If a sub looked through My wishlist, listened to the things I said I wanted/enjoyed on social media/elsewhere, and gave a thoughtful tribute based on those things, I’d be very impressed. High-dollar tributes always please Me, but when someone puts the thought into what they’re doing for Me, big or small, it always makes a positive impression. A pedicure may suit your fetish and be fun for Me-but treating Me to a day off or that pretty corset once in a while shows Me you care for My needs above your own-like any good sub should.      

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

My favourite aspect of being a FemDom is the freedom. I’m free to try and do anything I like and watch what happens. That ties into the true essence of Female Dominance, to Me; the power to do whatever I like.      

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I’ve been a performer all My life-I love clips, cam, and live performance! To Me, it feels natural and exciting. I was nervous about how I would do with an in-person session, live on the internet for that podcast. It ended up being fantastic! I had so much fun, and I can only hope I get the opportunity to continue. I love what I do-whether it’s clips, Kik, or something else, and I can’t wait to see what the future brings.      

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

The thing I really want to leave people with is this: we can often get really wrapped up in an end goal, and we fail to take in an experience and put in the time, work, and respect that it takes to achieve it in a meaningful way. Work towards your goals, but be where you are <3  

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