Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I have been heavily involved in the BDSM lifestyle for over a decade and throughout that time have had many close friends that are ProDoms. I even co-owned a Pro Dungeon for a time even though I wasn’t a Pro myself then. Back when I first discovered kink I *tried* being submissive and quickly discovered it wasn’t for me! So it’s been so long I can’t really remember specifically *how* I discovered it. What attracts me to it? I get off on the power and control I have over people as a Fem Domme. It’s exciting to me that I can make people’s minds my personal playground. When it comes to Pro- Domming I also get off on the fact I can earn a living doing what I love. I suppose when you boil it down I’m a sadist . . . and a capitalist!

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

Although I’ve “guest Dommed” in doubles sessions here and there over the years with Pro friends, I didn’t start doing this professionally with any regularity myself until about 2015 (I’ve been a hobby player for the entire past decade though). Looking back in the last 10 years that I’ve been on the periphery of the pro scene, there are a lot more women and couples than there used to be. Kink is becoming a bit more mainstream so couples are talking about with each other more rather than keeping secrets and seeing a pro alone. Some of it is the “Fifty Shades Effect,” I’m sure. But it delights me when couples come to me for instruction and advice for engaging BDSM together for the first time. I love teaching other women how to find their Dominance. It’s very empowering.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

There are many! When it comes to digital Domming, I love situations when I have total control over a person’s life. I’m not just talking financially (although I do like that too). But things like controlling what someone eats, being the administrator on their computer to monitor and control how much time they spend online and what websites they visit, etc, are favorites. When it comes to in-person moments (most of which are lifestyle scenes as most of my pro work is digital), I’ve had a number of really intense kidnapping and interrogation scenes over the last year or so that were amazing.

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I have an extensive background in business (I worked in management at the #2 ranked company in its category for over 15 years) plus have educational and professional experience in Psychology. I also successfully run my own vanilla business now in addition to digital Domming. Looks-wise people think I’m a lot younger than I really am so when suddenly I drop a bunch of knowledge and experience it catches them off guard. It’s also an asset to clients looking for someone with more mature intellect.

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

I wish I knew about the guys that prey on new Dommes looking to sabotage them with bad feedback, shitty attitudes, scams, etc. I soon learned Dommes maintain secret blacklists to avoid those jerks!

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

I wish I could change it’s status as being synonymous with illegal activities. Although online Dommes are not technically engaging in anything illegal, they constantly face having payment accounts shut down, being dropped by website providers, etc. I wish I could change the taboo nature of it from a business standpoint.

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

So many! Total control/TPE (including Findom, dietary restriction, etc), sissification and forced feminization, bimbofication, chastity/keyholding, cuckold, psychological edgeplay/mindfucks/gaslighting, Goddess and body worship, orgasm control and denial, JOI and CEI, edging , CBT, SPH and other forms of humiliation, prostate play and bizarre/unusual roleplays. In real time I enjoy things like corporal punishment and electric play– sometimes i can work some of that in on a digital session. These are just a few of the things I enjoy. I really like pushing boundaries and exploring taboos no matter what the particular method. It’s a fetish of mine to take submissives to places mentally and physically they’ve never been before by providing them new/first experiences.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

I love the idea of foot play/foot worship but when I do it in real time it’s very hit or miss. I’m ticklish and VERY particular about the way I like to be touched. If the slave has the type or touch I like, I’m fine. But if not– it’s like TORTURE. I hate it.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

I’m an RPG gamer– mostly table top (yep, like Dungeons & Dragons!) and I used to play MMORPG games quite a bit (I no longer have the time for that). It usually really takes people by surprise to find this out because on the surface I don’t seem like the type to enjoy those things!

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

Yes yes yes yes! That’s why I do this– because I was a lifestyle Domme first. I truly LOVE everything about what I do and it aligns perfectly with my real-life turn-ons.

What are some of your turn offs?

Me doing anything submissive– nope, nope, nope! One of my personal kinks is giving people first experiences. I also get off on the control and power I have over people, especially on a psychological level. So if I’m engaging in something that isn’t necessarily my favorite thing in the world (take lactation play– I don’t LOVE it but I don’t hate it either. I’m lukewarm about it– I can take it or leave it). If am I giving the submissive a great experience and I can really feel the power and control I have over the situation *THAT* turns me on. So it’s really subjective and situational. I could be doing someone I love (electric play) but if I’m not connecting with the sub or we aren’t having a good time for whatever reason then one of my favorite things could quickly become a turn-off in that instance.

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

I don’t like brats and I also don’t like subs that don’t emote enough. Or someone that just agrees with everything I say to the point of being a “Stepford sub.” Be courteous, be a good sub first and foremost, but also make noise! Have good facial expressions! When I hurt you I want to see/hear the result of my handiwork. That also provides feedback for me so I know what to do next and how to do it. I love subs that are easily emotionally broken and cry. Or ones that really scream when they are hurt. More of those subs, please! I also prefer my subs to be intelligent and strong willed but also obedient. That’s a difficult tightrope to walk.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

Back to strong willed but obedient– those are the qualities that impress me the most. KNOW what you want. Be a good communicator. Anticipate my needs without being controlling or topping from the bottom. I definitely want my subs to be betas but not so beta that they are boring, if that makes sense? And when it comes to my pro work— money. Again, I’m a capitalist. Nothing I detest more than a penny pinching cheap sub. Don’t even try to haggle with me, I’m not a flea market. That gets you an instant block.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

I’m a work-a-holic sometimes out of necessity and sometimes out of . . . I just don’t know any other way to be. Before digital Pro-Domming I didn’t have the time to go out and hobby play for fun. Now I’m having my cake and I’m eating it too. I get to play, make money, plus interact with a large variety of people in a short amount of time. It’s the best of all worlds.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I am mainly a telephone domme and I do not cam. This is for a few reasons. A. I still run my vanilla business and don’t want easily identifiable pics of me all over the internet. My pics are of me (authenticity is important to me) but they are edited and I’m disguised a bit from how I normally look to keep some anonymity. B. I like the true “work at home”aspect of doing phone work– especially because this isn’t the only thing I do. I just don’t have the time or energy to meet folks in person (or the time to properly screen which is important).

Recently I’ve been recording audio files which I really like. My voice is very unique and I’m experienced in professional voice-over work. For some of my brainwashing and hypnodomme files I produce accompanying visual content. A few of the tamer files are you my youtube channel here: YouTube. I also have a Patreon page set up for those that would like to fund my free content. The rest are available as goodies on Niteflirt.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

I want to thank them all for making this corner of the world and the internet enjoyable. BDSM is very misunderstood and shunned by the mainstream. It takes courage to determine what your fantasies are and then to go out and figure out how to get them satisfied. We’re a rare bunch that self-aware enough to be exactly where we need to be in life. That’s quite an accomplishment!

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