Domme Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of FemDom and what attracted you to it?

I discovered the world of FemDom when I was doing sex work on a virtual chat platform and a client approached me requesting financial domination. I thought to myself… “There has to be more people like this.” From then, I dove right in! I began researching and looking up anything I could about BDSM as a whole – not just FinDom. I realized I had felt so stagnant in SW and that was because I wasn’t doing what I was TRULY meant to do – dominate beta boys (and the world). Conquering weak men brings me an immeasurable amount of joy, this is where I’m meant to be. I’m always told I’m a natural so it’s showing in my interactions! I get to do what I love and make a hefty profit on it. What could be better than that?

How long have you been a Domme and have you noticed any differences in the industry between now and when you first started?

I’ve been a Domme for about 4 years and while I was on and off at first, there have definitely been some shifts. Obviously, there’s the censorship and how payment processors are continuously limiting the way we express ourselves within the content we create. I’m noticing a lot of my fellow creators are frustrated and I don’t blame them. There was an influx of people joining FemDom/FinDom thinking it was easy money and no doubt caused some harm within the community. Practicing kink with no knowledge of BDSM, RACK, PRICK or SSC is a recipe for disaster. However, we ARE a resilient folk so while times may seem uncertain, I’m confident we will come back roaring.

What are some of your most memorable moments as a FemDomme?

Oh my gosh, too many to count! My favorite one to date is the sound a beta boy makes when he realizes he’s utterly fucked. Powerless for me. I love that.

Please share one factoid about yourself that your subs and fellow FemDommes may be surprised to find out.

I’m inches away from being a certified hypnotherapist! I have completed all of my training and just need to complete my final at my own leisure. I really only invested in the training for the knowledge about hypnosis, triggers and anchoring. I wanted to expand my hypno knowledge. This makes me particularly skilled AND dangerous. ;)

What are some things you wish you knew about being a Domme before you started?

Honestly, answering this is tough for me because I spent MONTHS researching fetish and kink on top of having experience in SW to start. I definitely was at an advantage when beginning my career. Though there have been PLENTY of things I’ve learned since and they are mostly in regard to business. Something I could note is how much WORK it is to run this business. That doesn’t mean I don’t love the hell out of it!

If you could change one thing about the FemDom industry, what would it be?

I would rid the community of fetishists and kinksters living under the guise they are submissive. It’s perfectly fine to BE a fetishist or kinkster but if true, genuine submission isn’t your forte… you shouldn’t be claiming it is to get what you want out of a Domme. It’s not fair to them. It’s a recipe for dissatisfaction. I would also make the FemDom industry as a whole more welcoming. I was fortunate and had plenty of amazing Dommes in my circle, willing to help. But I have seen the other side of the industry which is the opposite. It’s saddening, really. This job can already be isolating at times, we should take every opportunity to uplift and support each other!

What are your favorite fetishes to indulge in with your subs?

Financial Domination, Mindfucking, Erotic Hypnosis and Humiliation. There are SO many deliciously kinky things to do under these and so many ways to combine them. Financial Domination is my MAIN fetish next to mindfucking – I’m usually not interested without at least one of these elements. The art of the mindfuck is incredibly erotic to me along with the power exchange of FinDom. There’s nothing like it, I’m sure some subs can agree ;)

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

My least favorite fetish is likely sissification, for more than one reason. #1. The subs that identify with this fetish/kink are usually insufferable. I’ve yet to meet a sissy that didn’t leave me with a bad taste in my mouth or wasn’t incredibly selfish. I also find the fetish is rooted in shame and female stereotypes; it rubs me the wrong way. I’m not totally against it though, it’s just not my favorite.

Outside of FemDom, what are some of your hobbies?

Shopping (duh). Binge watching my favorite TV shows, cuddling with my 3 dogs, I probably have some sort of fetish for home decorating :P I enjoy playing video games as well when I can focus long enough lol.

Does FemDom actually turn you on? If not, what does?

FemDom alone doesn’t turn me on BUT the power is a huge thrill for me. What DOES turn me on is FinDom, financial sacrifice. Money 1000% makes me wet.

What are some of your turn offs?

Selfishness, reluctance to tribute, brats, people that don’t respect limits. “Subs” that think they’re entitled to a Dommes time, especially for free. Basically, anything with “free” in it.

Describe your ideal slave / sub.

My ideal sub puts myself and my pleasure first. They tribute when commanded and on their own. They reimburse shopping and offer to fund things – specifically things that will contribute to my growth in some way. It doesn’t always have to be for the sexy things. A book, a class, software, continuing education, investing. I firmly believe in female supremacy and naturally any devotee of mine will too. They take initiative and look for ways to serve that will benefit me. They genuinely care for me outside of being their Domme, my physical and mental well-being is important to them. Naturally any sub that behaves this way will reap the rewards and earns a special connection within our dynamic.

What could a sub do that would please and/or impress you the most?

It’s simple. Tribute. Tribute without being told. Tribute big. Financial sacrifice is THE way to please or impress me. Offering to kneel before me and kiss my feet is amusing, sure, it has its joys. But TRUE sacrifice? Impressive.

What is your favorite aspect of being a FemDomme?

The power exchanges. A deep connection with the right submissive. Inspiring complete devotion. The community! The FemDom community I’ve found within the industry has been amazing. I haven’t been this happy doing anything else.

Please comment on how you feel about performing in clips, on cam, and in person. Do you offer each of these? How do you feel about them?

I don’t do in person, but I do offer clips, phone, cam, texting, used items, you name it, I probably do it. I LOVE creating clips, it’s been a creative journey and it feels really good to be able to tap into that part of myself. I’m constantly learning in this career and that’s something I need. I require consistent mental stimulation to remain interested in things. I’m REALLY excited to see my growth and to continue getting better and better. Performing in clips comes fairly easy for me. I get inspiration from everything basically, so I haven’t run out of ideas! Cam is another favorite of mine. Watching a submissive crumble in real time is a rush.

Is there anything else you’d like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

First and foremost, I would like to extend my gratitude to DommeSource for interviewing me! It’s an honor, truly. To all of my fellow Dommes, you’re strong, badass and goddamn sexy! Keep being you and keep taking all the beta cash! To submissives, always take a moment to reflect within yourself why you are in this community and if it’s for the right reasons. Just as Dommes are responsible for their actions, you are responsible for yours. Make sure you’re adding value to your Dommes life, nurture your dynamics just as you want your Domme to do for you!

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