Sub Spotlight Interview

How did you discover the world of Female Domination / submission and what attracted you to it?

In my early 20’s I discovered Femdom and that I had a submissive streak. I thought of it as a fetish, which I would satisfy with occasional visits to professional Dominatrices, where I happily topped from the bottom. This was not submissiveness, it was about me having my needs met – I never considered taking it beyond that, as I continued in my vanilla relationships. Then I met the Amazing Dominatrix, Miss Foxx in August 2013 and my whole life changed.

How long have you been a submissive? Are you a submissive in “real life” as well or do you switch?

I have been a submissive “wannabe” since meeting Miss Foxx. She was the first woman I met to whom I wanted to submit to and to hand over control of my life. But it is has been a long journey and a sharp learning curve, under Her tutelage. I was totally ignorant of what real submission was. It has taken me till now to feel confident to declare that “yes I am completely submissive to my Goddess and Owner, Miss Foxx”.

The demands of my work life dictate that I can’t be submissive in that domain. My real life now revolves around my Goddess, Miss Foxx and there is no “switching” there. I am totally obedient to Her and live me life the way She sees fit. It is a fully lifestyle relationship; when we are together everyone (both vanilla and those in the fetish scene) knows that ours is a D/s relationship.

Are you a slave to any Domme? If so, explain why you serve Her.

I am Miss Foxx’s full-time slave.

I serve Miss Foxx because I love Her.

I serve Miss Foxx because She is a beautiful, intelligent independent, wise and witty Woman with an iron will and good heart. In every way She is superior to me. I give Her control over my life because I know that the decisions She makes will be better than the ones I make. Obeying and living my life by Her rules has already improved my life circumstances and made me a better man, in every aspect of my life. In return for those precious gifts all I have to do is to obey Her without question and serve Her in every way She sees fit. Making Her happy, through my servitude, gives my life both a purpose and meaning.

I serve Miss Foxx because being Her slave goes way deeper than my original fetish. I adore every aspect of Miss Foxx’s being. When I am around her I am in a constant state of subspace, which is a deep feeling of love, calmness and submissiveness. It is a beautiful and almost mystical feeling. Miss Foxx IS a Goddess to me – I have set up a Church for me and fellow-worshippers @TheChurchofFoxx

Bringing a smile to my Beautiful Goddess’s face is all the emotional and sexual satisfaction I need . A fetish is a much shallower thing – it is like a sexual itch that needs scratching. Our D/s is not sexual. I have forsaken all sex in honour of Her and to better concentrate on my Service to Her. I am her cuckold who will happily serve any “RealMan” who satisfies Her sexually and emotionally. My sexuality is satisfied through vicarious sexual thrills from Miss Foxx’s relationships with Her “RealMen” and through the BDSM and fetish games Miss Foxx and I love to play.

What are your most memorable moments, as a submissive?

a) Miss Foxx was throwing a dinner party for four of Her vanilla girlfriends to celebrate a birthday of one of them. She surprised them by getting me to dress up as a butler and to cook and serve them, for the duration of the party. There was a butler bell in the dining room, which the ladies rang whenever they needed food or their glass topping up. They all thought it hilarious and they had me on my toes for the duration.

B) Taking Miss Foxx and Her RealMan to Agent Provocateur store in London where Her RealMan chose a very expensive and sexy lingerie set, for that night’s fun. Miss Foxx tried it on in the changing room (with RealMan in attendance) and then handed it to me to pay for it.. We then went back to my house. Miss Foxx and RealMan then went into my room ( I was banished to guest room) where she changed into the lingerie. She then came out and allowed me to do up the strap and kiss Her Bottom before She returned to my bedroom. Two hours noisy love-making ensued (in my bed) before I was summoned to clean up the room after them.

What is one thing you wish you knew about FemDom/submission before you started?

Submission is fun for both Domme and sub but it took me a while to realise that Femdom is about REAL Female Supremacy. At the centre of it is the Domme’s needs and pleasure. If the sub gets satisfaction from that then this is good but all his actions should add to the goal of pleasing his Mistress, not in satisfaction of his own fetish.

If I had known that from the start then our D/s would have been so much better.

Are there aspects of the FemDom industry you wish you could change? If so, what are they?

BDSM and Femdom is a small community. The wider vanilla community don’t understand us but we all know and understand each other’s impulses and fetishes. I hate to see petty beefs and jealousies in our community – we all should be more supportive of each other, in the face of outside lack of understanding and hostility.

What are your favorite fetishes and why?

1 I am a humiliation junkie. Luckily for me I have a very small penis so Small Penis Humiliation is a favourite of mine. Miss Foxx (who likes a big dick in Her REALMEN) enjoys giving it to me.

2 Cuckolding

3 Puppy Play – Miss Foxx has changed my name from Russell to JACK Russell after Her favourite breed of dog.

What are your least favorite fetishes and why?

My least favourite fetish was pain –I just didn’t like it. But Miss Foxx loves to inflict pain so, although I still don’t like the sensation of pain, I have learned to love a serious bull-whipping from my Goddess because I know how much it turns Her on. I now have a high pain threshold to accommodate Miss Foxx’s fetish. Pleasing my Goddess takes precedence over my discomfort.

In “real life”, do you consider yourself successful? In other words, were you born a sub or are you a sub by choice?

In real-life I have a dual existence. I am successful in work and it does not involve submissive behaviour. But I have submitted to myself wholly to my Mistress, Miss Foxx.

I am definitely a sub by choice and I am ( and was probably born that way) submissive to Women….. but not men.

Describe your ideal relationship with a FemDomme

I am a full-time, lifestyle slave to Miss Foxx. This is my ideal relationship with a FemDomme and I am lucky enough to live it..

What is your favorite aspect of being a sub?

Giving total responsibility to my FemDomme (Miss Foxx) over every aspect of my life. It makes my life so much simpler – I just need to obey Her to make both of our lives in synch.

What do you look for when looking for a Domme? Are there any special characteristics that you look for?

Intelligence and Beauty. My Domme must be more clever and intelligent than me and also must overwhelm me witb Her beauty.. That is a high bar and Miss Foxx is way above it… and way above me.

Is there anything that a Domme does or could do that would turn you completely away? Or, if you have served a Domme before and left, why did you leave?

I must totally trust my Domme and vice versa. Without that there is no true D/s relationship. If my trust was betrayed, then I would turn completely away. Happily that will never happen with Miss Foxx.

Do you partake in online sessions, clips, or in person sessions? Which are your favorite and least favorite and why?

I do all that but I am at my most comfortable and submissive in Her presence. I have doubts when I am away from Her but as soon As I am in Her presence, Her amazing Dominant Aura brings me to my knees and reassures me that I am doing the right thing, to be true to myself .

Is there anything you would like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

Be Honest and communicate with Your Domme. She needs to feel your feelings.

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