Sub Spotlight Interview

See inside the mind of various submissives. My sixteenth interview is with Subspacey!

How did you discover the world of female domination/submission and what attracted you to it?

For me I believe I’ve always had fantasies when I was younger of girls tying me down and forcing me to submit to them. I’ve always fantasized about giving up control and submitting, When I started researching the internet, I came across some fetish sites that compelled me to explore further. There was this virtual slave training program that I tried for years that got me hooked. The rest is history…

How long have you been a submissive? Are you a submissive in “real life” as well or do you switch?

Have been a submissive for a few years now. Have had two D/s relationships and there really is nothing like it. The unbreakable bond between the dominant and submissive for me is unparalleled to a traditional vanilla relationship in my opinion.

Are you a slave to any Domme? If so, explain why you serve Her.

Yes, am currently a slave in training under Empress Mika. I serve because it fulfills a need deep inside, I can only express to a dominant. An insatiable desire to serve has awakened me to the realization that it is my purpose to serve. Serving keeps me content and functional.

What are your most memorable moments, as a submissive?

Most memorable moments were in a previous D/s relationship with my dominant, we were doing an online session and it was her birthday. She was quite the sadist, and as I recall I endured a serious pegging session for a few hours that day.

What is one thing you wish you knew about FemDom / submission before you started?

Before I started, I wish I didn’t buy into the stereotypes and be so stubborn. Wish I knew it is not all about pain and that mental domination is a key component of a successful D/s relationship.

Are there aspects of the FemDom industry you wish you could change? If so, what are they?

Some kink sites predominantly feature sadism but there is so much more to Femdom than what meets the eye.

What are your favorite fetishes and why?

Goodness, there are so many, but foot fetish is up there. Submitting to beautiful feet is a surreal experience it is so degrading to me which is why it is a such a turn on. It’s the low of the low it affirms my place as a submissive at a Domme’s feet literally where I happily belong. Boot fetish, there is something about leather boots that make me weak as can be. The stunning leather and artistry are quite a spectacle and puts me in a deep submissive state.

Do you have any least favorite fetishes and why?

Feminization or cross dressing have never really turned me on. It could be partly because I have minimal experience in vanilla relationships. It just doesn’t trigger me. Scat play have never found that appealing.

In “real life”, do you consider yourself successful? In other words, were you born a sub or are you a sub by choice?

In real life am relatively successful. My aspirations are to be successful and dominant in real life. I believe I am a sub by choice. Although I’ve never had a physical altercation or fought anyone. Am a pacifist for the most part.

Describe your ideal relationship with a FemDomme.

My ideal relationship with a FemDomme is one where we both grow together and enhance each other’s lives in private and in real life. My Femdomme teaches new fetishes and a fresh perspective of what it means to be their submissive. It is a beneficial D/s relationship that prospers into something special that will last a lifetime. Where we both reach an understanding where the FemDomme knows me better than I know myself. Where there are no lies or hidden truths.

What is your favorite aspect of being a sub?

Favorite aspect is developing a special bond with my FemDomme. Being completely open and honest without fear of being scrutinized. The ability to be myself with no judgement. Being broken in to the point that my wants are my dominants wants. When it gets to the point in the relationship where my pleasure solely comes from serving and I ache for every command to obey. Where there is a burning desire inside to submit and a pleasurable tinge of submission in my gut.

What do you look for when looking for a Domme? Are there any special characteristics that you look for?

When looking for a Domme, I look for a slave training program. I need order as a sub to properly serve my dominant. Otherwise, it is hard for me to commit or remain involved in the relationship. I look for a Domme who knows what she wants and trains me to her liking. A Domme that doesn’t let me make any decisions or try to interfere with their dominant style anyway. Special characteristics would be a Domme who cares for her sub at times and is not 100% dominant all the time. A Domme lets me know my place when I need to and lets me express my feelings in a friendly environment.

Is there anything that a Domme does or could do that would turn you completely away? Or, if you have served a Domme before and left, why did you leave?

Yes, that would be being ignored for a long period of time without communication. As a submissive it rips my heart out of my chest and without effective communication can ruin the relationship. Yes, I have served and left due to the Domme trying to take advantage of me for financial reasons. Plus, the relationship was problematic, and I couldn’t trust the Domme’s authenticity. Was also young and immature.

Do you partake in online sessions, clips, or in person sessions? Which are your favorite and least favorite and why?

Personally, I partake in online sessions. Online sessions are my favorite because it is so much more than watching a Femdom POV clip. These sessions stay in my mind years later because they have such an impact on me as a submissive. They remain so vivid and transcendent in my mind. Have never partook in clip sessions. I question the authenticity of the subs are they truly submissive? Or is it just for the money. Least favorite is in person, only because it scares me. Am not sure am ready for that kind of commitment.

Is there anything you would like to say to the DommeSource audience, to both fellow Dommes and subs?

To the DommeSource audience, this a remarkable site for fellow Dommes and subs. It brings us together as a community and strengthens us. To be able to share my perspective on this site is an absolute joy. Hope more subs do the same in the future. As for Dommes, it’s wonderful that newer Dommes can read all of the subs interviews and broaden their understanding of Femdom and define what particular sub suits them.

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